It’s a scenario that anyone who has cheated on their significant other knows all too well: you get home from work and your spouse approaches you, asking to talk. They then lead you to the couch and say they really need to talk with you about something serious. You feel your stomach drop as your guilty conscience fears the worst: they found out about your affair. And then they spit it out, sometimes in a flood of tears.
I’ve been cheated on.
I know—how could someone that has been cheated on next do the exact same thing to somebody else? The fact is I did. It’s easy to see how it happened, but looking back now I feel absolutely horrible about the whole event. I was not raised to cheat on somebody, and yet here I am lying to my wife about my actions for weeks before she finally caught me after three years of marriage. Yes, guys, you read that right: three years of marriage before she caught me cheating on her with another woman.
I got caught cheating because I was afraid of losing her. I didn’t cheat because I was bored or gave up on my marriage. It wasn’t because my wife would find out about me, or some other reason that some people would point out. No, I cheated because my fiancée made me feel like she wasn’t enough for me, and it hurt too much to try to fix that.
There are many intricate reasons that lead people to cheat, but for me it boiled down to two simple things: love and fear.
Love is a funny thing say London escorts at London X City Escorts you can be absolutely in love with someone and still want them to be happy. If you love someone you want the best for them, including being with somebody that gives them that. I’ve been in love before, but I have never been in love the way I was with my fiancée. We were high school sweethearts, and even after college we found ourselves back together. It has been an amazing three years of marriage, but I let it slip away because of fear.
That fear was me losing her. If she knew the truth she would walk out on me, probably straight into somebody else’s arms or maybe even somebody else’s bed and it made me feel sick to think about that happening to her or us. There was a time when she could have been mine, but as I once again was filled with regret I wondered if one day she would be somebody else’s.
I’m not going to try to rationalize what I did it was wrong and that’s that. All I want to do here is put everything out there and hope it helps people realize that you can cheat on someone because you love them. And the majority of the time you will catch yourself before it’s too late, because if you don’t you might just get caught.
I’m not going to get into the whole “just because I cheated on my wife doesn’t mean you should cheat on your girlfriend or boyfriend” argument, but I will say this: you should not cheat. I do not know what the answer is for everybody, and if it can help people to stop cheating and get back together then so be it. But if there is one piece of advice that everyone in a relationship needs to hear, it is this: don’t cheat.
Life is absolute hell when you cheat on someone and London escorts agree. It takes their trust away from you—yet even when they trust you again it will never be that same trust they once felt towards you before.