It is human instinct to obey patterns because protection and certainty are given by consistency. However, when they contribute to dissatisfaction in a relationship, predictable patterns may become troubling. It can arouse enthusiasm, increase your respect for each other, and improve your relationship overall by adding a little spice to your relationship with your significant other.
Do different things.
Through experiencing new things together, one way to interact and bring some encouragement to your relationship is. Come up with a list of stuff you’d both like to do. From attending a dance class or seeking a new sexual role, this can be something. A couple of ideas include:
Explore various kinds of kissing.
It is convenient for lovers to fall into the trap of kissing over and over an identical way, but there are plenty of different forms of kissing.
Try a different approach to foreplay.
Men and women have very different ideas about what is important during foreplay. Check out a different foreplay strategy. Throughout foreplay, men and women have very different views about what is necessary.
Participate in role-playing.
Sexual role-playing games can certainly jazz up situations. Pretend to be strangers and meet up at a pub. Have the other person create an identity. Feel free to play hard to get a bit.
Setting dates for sex.
You make dates for watching a movie or having dinner, so you can make a date for having sex, too. For those of you with kids, this is particularly important. Set up a time alone for lovemaking and make sure that all distraction is removed from the bedroom or, better still, check into a hotel. Note-you are lovers, not parents, during this period.
Get flowing with the adrenaline.
After feeling fear, or some other adrenaline-producing sensation, both men and women have been shown to become more sexually aroused. Do something that causes a sensation of fear and arousal. Maybe it just puts you both in the mood.
You don’t have to map out anything you’re doing. Spontaneity can be an effective way to add to your current relationship intensity.